I was thinkin’ ’bout somethin’
You were thinkin’ ’bout nothin’
And I was try’na read in between the lines
On your face and in your mind
Like staring at an oven
Won’t get it done, an’
And isn’t somethin’?

CHORUS
We can only see so much
Can’t comprehend what we can’t touch
It’s a sacred space and it’s not my place
We gotta learn, gotta learn to trust

I was thinkin’ ’bout nothin’
You were thinkin’ ’bout somethin’
Tried to give you some lovin’
But your lips kept runnin’
I hear some buzzin’
Your words keep comin’
Ain’t it somethin’?

CHORUS
We can only hear so much
Can’t comprehend what we can’t touch
It’s a sacred space and it’s not my place
We’ve gotta learn, gotta learn to trust

*Olson Scat SOLO!

And isn’t it somethin’
When I’m thinkin’ ’bout ‘nothin
Like a wind that’s stirrin’
You’re tellin’ me somethin’
I’m try’na listen
To a gentle whisper
God to a sinner

CHORUS
We can only be so much
Can’t comprehend a being we can’t touch
It’s a sacred space and it’s not my place
We gotta learn, gotta learn to trust

We gotta learn, gotta learn to trust

 

Alright. This song is for men and women… not unlike our other songs.

More specifically, it reveals the disconnect in our relationships.
Notice, the first verse is sung by Alyssa (for women by a woman). She sings about how she tries to read my (Joel’s) thoughts… even when I don’t have any. You might be amazed how many times the following conversation happens in our relationship:

Alyssa: Hey, whatchya thinkin’ about?

Joel: 

Alyssa: Anything?

Joel: … I’m literally not thinking about anything.

So, this naturally leads into my (the man’s) take in the second verse. The biggest block to our connection occurs when I try to initiate contact or intimacy and her mind is running like a hamster wheel. I may be asking her a question, but she has no mental capacity to give a proper answer. She is busy thinking about a dozen different things.

Honestly, when we are in such different places like this, we usually don’t connect. The line from my verse is so true. When she tried to talk to me her lips kept runnin’ (maybe about her grocery list) and all I heard was some buzzin’. Us men are historically bad at listening to women when the conversation is about something that doesn’t matter to us.

Sometimes this happens in a relationship.

Neither of us are justified in these instances.

We wrote the choruses (chorusi?) to reflect the frustration and offer productive truth in these moments.

CHORUS 1: We can only see so much

  • Communication requires two willing parties
  • You can’t see thoughts
  • If we can’t touch something, we resist understanding

CHORUS 2: We can only hear so much

  • With so much input coming at us, there’s only so much we actually retain
  • Unless you’re an extrovert conversationalist who’s love language is Words of Affirmation, you need other things to fill you up besides talking

CHORUS 3: We can only be so much

  • We’re not God. And we shouldn’t try to be.
  • Can’t comprehend a being we can’t touch, who loves us unconditionally
  • God tells us to rest in Him in Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”
  • We (the sinner) were never meant to take God’s place.

The apostle Paul speaks about something amazing in Romans 1:20-32*:

For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God. Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. Claiming to be wise, they instead became utter fools. (*summarized)

My encouragement to you in your relationships is: think about the person you are with when you are with them! 

Don’t let yourself off the hook by scrolling through your phone, watching a show, or answering in the same way you always do. If you don’t understand or agree with their way of thinking or acting, don’t let it harden your heart, instead trust the process and seek to understand and most importantly LOVE.